“Kindred spirits are not so scarce as I used to think.” – Anne of Green Gables
I can relate to the pure relief and giddiness Anne feels when she experiences genuine friends who care for her. Those are the relationships we ought not take for granted, as they are not guaranteed in every season of life. All the more reason to make the most of them in their time, and pause long enough to appreciate the gift that they are.
I am blessed to be sharing a post today from Kayla Nelson, writer for The Accidental Nomad Life. I am so encouraged by her thoughts on friendship, and our calling one to another. I hope her words inspire you to express gratitude to the people who love you in your most vulnerable moments.
Andrew (my husband) and I were chatting, on our way home from dinner at a friend’s house last night. We were contemplating together what blessed relationships we have with our friends. At dinner, it was us, the host couple (married with kids), and a single friend of ours. I mentioned how awkward it could have been for our single friend and we both came to the conclusion that the friendships that we have are so easy because a relationship with Jesus is the main foundation of them.
We have other friends, that don’t have relationships with Jesus, and we realized that our lives would not feel lacking without those friends compared to missing one of our others – they are like family.
Oil and perfume make the heart glad, and the sweetness of a friend comes from his earnest counsel. Proverbs 27:9
The sweetness of our friendships comes from a mutual life of faith – our morals line up, we trust our friends to have wisdom, and we trust that when something arises we can go to our friends for help and vise versa. That’s not to say that secular friends aren’t trustworthy in these ways, but there is a freedom in friendships based on a life of faith.
It gave me a really clear picture of what Romans 12:4-5 talks about:
For as in one body we have many members, and the members do not all have the same function, so we, though many, are one body in Christ, and individually members one of another.
As a church family, we are called to care for one another, and connect on a level outside of what the secular world is familiar with. Once Christ is the center of our life’s purpose, we are adopted into the church family and because of that we can rely on one another in a beautiful way. This then led me to Hebrews 10:24-25, a passage that I claimed for my life as I was growing up:
And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day drawing near.
I tend to be a sentimental person, and although I wear an outward appearance of tough and gruff, I’m a sap. I regularly gush in notecards to our friends on their birthdays, and let them know just how important they are to us. I like to know what I mean to people, and it is very important to me that others know how much I appreciate them.
In honor of friends and encouraging our church family, I created a little notecard for Stephanie to offer you!
Print a few, and let someone know you’re thinking of them, or maybe what they mean to your life.
Kayla has been married to her husband, Andrew, for almost 8 years. They have four boys – 6, 4, 2 & brand new in June. They have moved five times over the course of their marriage which is where the title of Kayla’s blog, the Accidental Nomad Life sprung from. Kayla homeschools their oldest two boys, blogs frequently and does freelance design work as her stay-at-home job; she loves photography, graphic design, and anything crafty and DIY. Kayla has a heart for sharing her story and encouraging people – the goal of her blog is to reach those who are interested in simple, intentional, faith-based living.
Find out more about Kayla on her blog: The Accidental Nomad Life
Facebook: the Accidental Nomad Life blog
More from Kayla on Friendship: